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15 Gift Ideas for Someone You *Just* Started Dating

Thoughtful—but not too thoughtful—gifts for your new boo.

By: Bibi Deitz

When my boyfriend and I began dating five years ago, it was October. We met on a mutual friend’s rooftop, at his birthday party, and fell into a fun routine of going to shows and eating dinner at Brooklyn restaurants I’d never been to before. But Hanukkah and Christmas rolled around approximately two months into our new thing, and it was daunting.

Something too extravagant, and I’d look too eager. Something too small, and I’d look careless. In the end, I settled on a record my boyfriend had once had but lost along the way. He got me a book we discussed the night we met. Both items were small but thoughtful and showed that we listened to each other and actually cared.

Though we can’t recommend gifts on quite the same plane, we can point you in the right direction to find considerate and sweet presents for your new boo. It’s a tricky note to hit, but we promise you can do it—with flair.


The smartest linen pajamas we’ve seen in a while—and they have a matching women’s version.

No one will complain about a Byredo candle.

A silk tank and matching shorts in the comfiest cut.

A new book is always a good idea, and Zadie Smith’s new collection of stories is just the ticket.

This is one of those gifts that only works if you’ve noticed it would fill a gap. Is your partner constantly looking for a hair tie? If so, this is a small but thoughtful go-to gift.

Warning: This rosewater toner is strangely addictive. You might want to buy two.

Speaking of roses: If your new love keeps this at your place, you can both reap the benefits of this rosy wash.

You can splurge on four of these bad boys and still have cash left to buy some coffee or tea to go with them.

Bonus points if you bring this perfect Earl Grey back from Paris, where I scored some on my last trip—but it’s the thought that counts.

Two words: Brooklyn coffee. No matter where you live, this will satisfy even the most discerning coffee aficionado.

A nice double entendre for that new situation you’ve found yourself in.

Since we’re all complaining about dull winter skin right now, this should perk up even the most lackluster complexion. Another fun present that lets your new boo know you’re listening.

If you’re not in the mood for keeping things low-key, you could always go Gucci.

Or Valextra.

Or you could just go full Balenciaga and get the campaign cap from the new season. If you’re a go-big-or-go-home type, this might be right for you.

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